|I know joining a Together Group is a big jump.|
There are a lot of reasons you shouldn’t do it. Heck, I’ve made some of these same excuses and I’m the pastor! Here’s my list of excuses.
Excuse #1: There are weird people.
You’re thinking something like this, aren’t you?
If I join a Together Group, there will be weird people in there. They will probably have cats and want to talk about the book of Revelation the whole time. They are either going to make their own bread and homeschool their kids, collect action figures, or try to recruit me to be a part of a pyramid scheme. I don’t know if I can handle that level of weirdness.
Let me go ahead and confirm your fears. Chances are, there WILL be a strange person in your group. But if it’s any consolation, you’re the person everyone else is afraid of.
Excuse #2: I’m too busy.
On any given week, you work about 50 hours, drive about 10 hours, go to the grocery store, mow the grass, watch SportsCenter, grill burgers, drive the kids to their extracurricular activities, and call your mom. Every time you check one thing off the list, another thing is there to take its place.
The pace is brutal, and you need all the hours you can. So the thought of taking a night in the middle of the week to go hang out with people and talk about the Bible isn’t really all that appealing. “This season of my life is just busy,” you tell yourself.
But deep down you know this season of your life isn’t any busier than the last season of your life and is just as busy as the next season of your life. They are all busy seasons.
You don’t need a lecture to prioritize what’s truly important, so I’ll spare you. But I do want to give you permission. Permission to let something go undone. Permission to tell your kids they can’t do that activity because mom or dad need a night. Permission to eat out instead of making that healthy dinner.
Excuse #3: I’m an introvert.
I’m pretty sure 60% of the people in the world are introverts. It seems like less, but that’s just because the extroverts are loud and everywhere.
I’m an introvert – I am renewed and relaxed by being alone. Whether that’s in a coffee shop with a good book or listening to the latest podcast by Julie Roy’s while cutting my grass – I like doing things by myself. Large groups of people drain me. Conversations wear me out.
Like sugar, it’s good in small amounts, but too much isn’t good for me.
If you’re an introvert like me, the thought of hanging out with people talking about life sounds miserable. But once you break the ice and get through some of the silly stuff, it will be worth it. If you want people to come to your funeral, you’re going to have to get to know some people while you’re alive.
Those are three of the reasons I’ve given myself for not jumping into a small group with others.
So, what are yours?
P.S. If you’re ready to jump in, we’ll make it as easy as possible. Just email me at Robbie@wearetogether.church and I will help you get connected!